Do you have days where it all feels like it’s just hard work?
I know I do. It’s like a funk that just brings you down and suck the energy and life out of you. Unfortunately, it has a lot to do with our thoughts. Fortunately, it can be fixed!
Here are a few common mistakes we ALL make. The most important aspect for all of them is to be aware of them. Once you have that awareness, it becomes easier to notice it and break the thinking pattern.
#1 Green Grass Thinking
Life will always seem more difficult if you are constantly comparing yourself to others. I have to work hard at this, because there are always people that seem to have it all worked out, with the perfect family, the best behaved kids, the cleanest house, gorgeous and trendy, lots of money, thin and able to stay that way, a job they love ….you get the picture. ALL it does is make me feel bad, and I’m certainly not making life easier dwelling on these type of thoughts.
#1 action to overcome it
Turn the torch around and shine the light on my own green grass. ie Look inwards at myself, and all of the amazing friends I have, my fantastic husband, beautiful family… and be grateful for what I have, and the choices I have made, and the hard work I have put in.
#2 Mother’s Guilt
Ooohhhh this is a biggie! Mother’s guilt can make you crazy, and there are so many levels to it. Occasionally I get caught up in this one, but when I become more aware of it, I am getting much better at taking a step back and accepting my decisions and trusting that I made those decisions based on what I have experienced and know.
It makes life harder because we second guess ourselves, often hesitating, overcompensating, or just working harder to make things up, be there ALL of the time, and BE Everything, but it’s not possible,and it does make life much harder.
# action to overcome it: Letting go
Letting go of the guilt and releasing myself from it’s constraints. I make decisions based on what I know, and based on my experiences, and that’s the way I will always do it. I don’t doubt that I am trying my best for my children, and I don’t expect to be perfect at it.
I let go of having the guilt loom over me and refuse to let it bring me down. I’ve got better things to do with my energy!
It’s not always easy to do, but trust me, the more you do it, the better you get at it.
#3 Setting High Standards
High standards were fine when you were younger, possibly single, and had all the time in the world. Now that there are children in the mix, and especially for younger ones, high standards are just something that make life harder, more unattainable and end up making you feel worse.
# action to overcome it: Lower your standards
I find this one difficult, but again, am getting much better at it. It’s actually a combination of letting go of things, and knowing my priorities. How I spend my time is so much more important to me now, so I don’t want to waste it attaining a standard that puts me under more stress.
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