You know that moment when you’re looking at your angels sleeping peacefully, and you wonder if you’ve been enough today?
That’s when that guilt really kicks in, and you go through the ‘I should have played with them more’, or ‘I shouldn’t have rushed the last book’…
That feeling really tugs at your heart, and it’s hard to feel like you’ll never have enough time to get everything done. It can leave you feeling so frustrated, but also really sad.
Guilt can seep into every area of our life – I know it did for me.
I could never give my whole self to everyone.
I wanted to work better, but I was exhausted.
I wanted to love more, but I was exhausted.
I wanted to play more, but I just had nothing left, from trying to give for so long when I had so little within me.
I kept putting myself last. I did it so well that it became a habit, and it was a cycle I couldn’t get out of.
Even when I started working at home, it became really difficult to care for myself, because I had to ‘prove’ myself. I had to do more so show that I could manage everything and start a business (despite having a newborn!).
Well, we all know that’s a recipe for guilt, loneliness, negative beliefs and sadness, and it took me a LONG time of rebuilding, caring and believing in myself to pull myself out of it.
– the way I spoke to my children
– to the way I used my time
– to my ability to focus
– to my health
– to my stress levels
I still managed to get the same amount done, but my heart was lighter. It wasn’t heavy with my failings, what I should be doing, and what I hadn’t done.
I want to share everything that I have learned with you because I know so many mums will benefit from this knowledge and these strategies.