Why do I want to lose weight? Here was my list of reasons:
- my husband would love it, and I wouldn’t feel so self-conscious around him
- my mum would be proud of me
- I’d have more energy for playing with the girls
Ummm – so where was I on the list? I didn’t even make it! I was shocked.
It happens though – more often than not. There is so much to do, we have to organize child care, school, manage the house, as well as be professional and on top of everything at work. All of these things take our energy, and if we keep up the facade long enough, we might just get away with it.
Sadly, we also know that this doesn’t work. Thinking like this is undermining our own needs and only seems to put us further back on the list, while we take care of everyone else.
I used to think I was doing the right thing, and it has taken me years to cotton on to the fact that it’s not. It’s just bringing me down, and that actually brings everyone else down. It means I slip into a cycle of giving where there’s never anything left for me.
I was so shocked about learning that I wasn’t even on the list and that I was trying to achieve a goal that I intrinsically was never fully involved in.
My motivation was wrong, and that’s probably been my problem most of my life. It was never from the inside out, and always from the outside in, which leaves me last, and enduring YEARS of never actually achieving some really important goals, and making it so much harder than it needed to be.
So what about you?
What about your goals?
Are they inside out, or outside in?
Does it feel like you’ve been banging your head against a brick wall – never making progress because you are always last on your list?
Do you even think it’s possible to put yourself first, or does that dreaded guilt kick in and you retreat back into a corner?
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Can’t be your best when you’re last.